I never styled my hair to please anyone. If I ever dressed a certain way, or wanted to impress a special someone, I just can not think of a time when I thought that my hair style would be the way to get someones attention. I think we (women) take our hair so seriously and personally, that we almost never use it (or abuse it) to impress others. We style our hair to PLEASE OURSELVES.
Every time we walk by that mirror, the hair better be great, right? And if it is, we can conquer the world of anything. Interesting, isn’t it? So we style the hair to impress the lady we see in the mirror, and if she is happy then we can be happy too.
I am somewhat stuck in the 80’s with my hair, and that makes me happy. I love the volume, I love my roots to be up for more volume and height on top (hence HIclips, right?). That makes me feel confident and at home with myself.
The color is not that important to me but lately I do prefer my natural color (dark brown) since my guy loves it that way. He loves my dark brown hair and that makes me feel great, and makes me appreciate my natural colors even more. He loves any hair cut I have (or had) as long as I am happy with it. He makes my job of loving myself super easy.
Was I lucky to find a guy that loves the features I have, or do I love the features I have well enough to make myself attractive to him? I guess I’ll never know but I bet both are true.
I think the more we love our natural features, the more happy, confident, and therefore attractive we become to our partner. The easier it is for them to love and enjoy us.
The way we love our bodies, the way we hide or reveal what is natural about us, send strong signals to people around us. When SHE walks in the room with no make up on, with her hair exactly how SHE wants it to be, and her every move showing off every feature of her body, SHE is easy to love.